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Q: Is my heartburn genetic?
So i have never had heart burn in my whole life until 3 days ago and it wont go away….. I have taken tums and all the other meds and it is just burning something horrible.. I called my mother and asked her what i should do for it. She then proceeds to tell me that the only time she ever had heartburn was when she was pregnant with her three children. (one of those kids was me of course)…I have also been feeling dizzy…

I have pcos and i have been taking metformin for about a month.
I didnt think i could get pregnant just on that. We were ttc until i went to the doc and they told me i had PCOS. We werent trying or anything and now all of this starts happening out of the blue…

Should i go buy a pregnancy test?
Or would it be a waste of money?

What do you guys think?
Thanks for the advice!! :]

A: The only time I have ever had heartburn is when I was pregnant with my two kids. That is actually how I knew I was pregnant with my 2nd one. Good luck.

Q: Horrible heartburn at 37 weeks pregnant?
I’m 37 weeks pregnant with my third child (second pregnancy had twins first) and I’ve been experiencing HORRIBLE heartburn the past week or so. I don’t burp anything up I just feel an intense fire in my chest right in between my breast bone. I never get heartburn at all. And I’m just curious on what everyone else thinks. Give me your insight please. TY :D

A: You can take Pepcid, Zantac, and Tums. There is also a prescription the doctor can prescribe. But, many insurance companies don’t cover it.

It has nothing to do with the baby having hair. My son was as bald as can be. Reflux and heartburn are caused by a slowed digestive system combined with weight on your stomach when you lay down. Which pushes stomach contents back up into your throat and mouth.

Q: I had a miscarriage 3 weeks ago, I am having symptoms, like headach, nausea, heartburn, am I pregnant again?
I had a miscarriage at 5 weeks along, I had low hcg levels of 16 and it went back down to zero 4 days later. It was light bleeding for 4 days and no cramping at all. It is 3 weeks later and I am having many pregnancy signs like sore boobs, nausea, moodiness, headaches and heartburn, (which I only get when I am pregnant having had 2 children previously.) I didn’t however feel this when I was pregnant in November. Could I be pregnant again? and is it possible to feel symptoms this soon? Some please share with me if they’ve had this experience. I have taken 2 negative pregnancy tests but by my calculations I am not suppose to get my period for another 5 days, based on when I had the miscarriage..Please help, I’m so confused.
I guess I should add that my sister is a midwife and coached me through the whole ordeal. She is away on vacation right now but I want to know if I am pregnant again before I say anything. From all the research that I’ve done and from what her and my dr. told me there are no increased risks in getting pregnant right away. Apparently your body won’t get pregnant if it is not ready. I did see the dr. 2 times since the miscarriage, I had the miscarriage at the hospital and had 2 ultrasounds done that showed no fetal pole or sac. I did not need a d&c as my hcg levels had gone back down to 0 the last time I had blood taken. The dr. said that it was light bleeding because it was so early in the pregnancy, he also said because it is the first miscarriage I’ve had and that because I’ve had 2 healthy full term pregnancies that I could start trying again when I felt up to it… and that if I wasn’t pregnant again in 3 months to come back and we would talk about fertility possibilities.
Thank you everyone for your input. I appreciate the support and advice.

A: I just had a miscarriage that ended November 15th. I was 7 weeks pregnant. I started having all the same symptoms as you two weeks after the miscarriage. I just took a pregnancy test Thursday and it came back positive.

At first I noticed sore boobs, light headaches, and I have had alot of moodiness. Just the sound of my husband chewing his food is driving me nuts.

I would also like to add that getting pregnant right away does not increase your chances of another miscarriage. My mom has had two miscarriages that were followed by another pregnancy and she gave birth to two healthy babies nine months later.

Sounds like your pregnant. If so congradulations.

Q: Heartburn, Stomache pain on Right side, Prior ultrasound? Any answers?
Hello. I am a 35 yr old female, have had 2 children (c-section) and a hysterectomy. I am a bit overweight, approx. 40 pounds. I have been diagnosed in the past with stomach ulcers. Most recently (January) I had severe right side (2-3″ below the ribs), I went to the Dr. assuming I had an appendicitis, well it seems I didn’t. He ran tests and did an ultra sound, my stomach, pancreas, gallbladder, kidney and appendix were all fine, however he did say that I showed signs of moderate fatty liver disease. Recently, (last week) I started having the same pain in my side, it was severe last weekend and hurt worse with movement. I took it easy, what what I ate (when I did) and it has gradually gotton better, (is still a dull, constant, aching pain), however in addition to it now I have SEVERE heartburn after I eat/drink anything. I have a horrible taste in my mouth, my stomache, chest and throat burns, I still have the pain in my side as well. Antacids don’t help, bland diet didn’t help, water didn’t, Aciflex meds didn’t help. I am in pain and am not sure what else this could be. I know I should see a gastroenterologist, but I am not eligible for insurance for another month. I know there are such things as gall stones, acid reflux, GERD, ulcers, etc. But does anyone have any educated idea as to what this is and should I be extremely concerned or should I hold out a few more weeks until the insurance kicks in and I can see a professional. My quack of a Dr. doesn’t seem to help me much, anyone out there with the same symptoms and a diagnosis, and Dr’s out there with suggestions. Thanks for any help!!!

A: This is reason for concern and could be an indication of something like a problem with the heart (when a woman has a problem with her heart such as if there’s an impending heart attack-just using this as an example only-the symptoms that can occur can be in the stomach area and also cause heartburn) but I would recommend checking with the city health department to see if they offer a free health clinic that can evaluate the situation.

If not, I would recommend going to the ER for further evaluation of the situation to see what they say.

Q: I am fed up i have 2 children who have rotten colds and so have i but i am 32 weeks pregnant!?
I am just getting over tonsilittis and now i have a rotten cold which is making it hard to breathe properly, forget about sleep i cant sleep with this cold, plus heartburn,plus leg cramps,plus baby jumping on my bladder like a trampoline. I am so fed up plus its my birthday tomorrow and my family will come down and my house is a tip!! Wish there was a black hole and swallow me up. Okay i am done moaning thank you, how did you cope with being so heavily pregnant and 3 small children under 6 2 are ill 1 is in school!!!!

A: Unfortunately you are experiencing not only the nasty side effects of late pregnancy but a cold on top of it. Of course you feel miserable and sorry for yourself, don’t worry about the state of your house, your family is coming to see you for your birthday, not your house! Maybe they could do a little cleaning up for you when they see how sick and miserable you are, or even a little babysitting to give you some ‘me’ time. Anyway, happy birthday for tomorrow, try to have a lovely day! Hope you are your little ones are feeling much better very soon. Good luck with your new baby, I hope he/she is happy and healthy!

Q: can you share your experience about behaviour of children with reflux/gerd, especially babies, please help?
My daughter doctor as I thought said that she has reflux, but unfortunately did not prescribe anything, so that means she feel constant pain due to food coming to her throat, as reflux/gerd is like heartburn, also she can not sleep on her own, because when she is lying in the bed the food is coming up I tried to make her bed little higher, but she does not like it. Her behaviour is not possible to console.
It makes me sad, because I want her to sleep good and have good naps, but I can not help.
How are your children behaving with this problem? I think sometimes that food that contain milk is causing that, because she is bringing up the food after yogurt or anything with milk. Any experience on that? How did you help your baby sleep on their own without anything?
By the way what are the food breaks that you do for you baby every 4 hours, my daughter is 9 months old

A: My son suffered with reflux since he was born & he is now 8month’s old & was just put on medication called Zantac. They kept telling me that he had Colic when the whole time it was reflux. I was sooo tired of him crying all day long & waking up sooo much at night that I printed off a list online of all the reflux symptoms, highlited the one’s he had & took him to the doctor & gave them the list & that’s when they decided he did have reflux so he was suffering the whole time just like your baby. So try more than one doctor if you feel like her current doctor wont listen to you or if you think she need’s medicine which it sounds like she does, poor baby :(
You could consider giving your child Soy Milk & avoid the yougurt for awhile & see if that makes a difference, maybe she cant have regular milk? They say babys with reflux like to drink alot of milk cause it helps with the reflux even though soon after drinking it, it will come back up. The medicine helps with the pain & the crying put they will still spit up some. Most of the time in order to get my son to sleep I have to give him a bottle & rock him & then lay him in his crib with the bottle still in his mouth once’s its almost empty & switch it to a pacifier & then pray he doesnt wake up.lol. Hopefully this helps & I hope she feels better :)

Q: Hubby may be out of work and expects me to do all for his children…is this fair? Help!?
My husband has been having all kinds of pain lately in relation to the right side of his chest, his back, some down his arm and near his stomach when he eats certain things. He is doped up on pain meds and relaxers right now from a doc and two antibiotics for a bacteria in his stomach called H. Pylori. He is taking amoxicillian (antibiotic), clarithromycin (antibiotic), oxycontin (muscle relaxer), cyclobenzaprine (pain), and nexium(heartburn). His work wont let him go back to work unless he doesnt take the pain med which he cant cuz he gets pain so bad and almost keels over. He has been in and out of the hospital numerous times and they find nothing.

They have run tests on him for heart, gallbladder, lungs, liver, you name it. He did have a scope and they found a hiatal hernia but the doc doesnt beleive that is hurting him and that it can be treated with nexium. I believe he needs to be refered to a bigger and better place but he keeps fighting me on it. I think that it will only be a matter of time before he finally stops being an *** and listens. These medicines are making him an angry nasty person. The doc says that he may have to sit at home and treat the bacteria and that may make him feel better but of course my husband is anxious to get back to work and will do whatever it takes.

Well, I am perfectly capable of working. I finished school to be a teacher but there are no jobs right now but i can obviously sub but if we have his children like we do every other week i cant take his son to school, i can only take his daughter and our son together to day care before i get to school. We have to drive his son into town which is about a 15 min drive the same time i have to be at a school to sub.

I suggested we have his two kids on the weekends and he is throwing a fit and thinks i should sit at home cuz i wont make much anyway because i got to pay day care. we certainly dont have money to pay before and after school care for his son plus his daughter and our son together. Well, i wouldnt have to pay so much if he was capable of watching them but i dont think he is on all those medicines. I dont think he will be able to take his son to school either. His son cant ride the bus cuz we live in a different district than his mother and of course everything is conveinent for her but not for us….i think my husband is being unreasonable when I feel that we need to be able to pay our bills and put food on the table and he only is going to be getting checks for about half of what he normally makes. I got school loans to pay for too. I would like to try and sub as much as i possibly can.

Child support is not an issue since he has papers saying that custody is 50 50 with no support but it can still be 50 50 if we take them every weekend and all summer or a reasonable amount that the mother agrees to. Anyways, I am also pregnant with our second child together. I do not need this stress. We need to pay our bills. What do I do? Please help??!

A: Ok.
your issue is really to big to deal with on your own,
you need a mediator.
Quickly.

But you also need more than anything in the world,
your salvation, to help you to endure the
conflict.
Jesus the Lord will help you overcome some rather serious emotional issues that you are confronted with by your partner………

this guy is making life harder and harder,

you need help. Now, do not neglect the help that God offers you.

Q: Hubby may be out of work, but expects me to sit at home and do all for his children, is this fair? Help!?
My husband has been having all kinds of pain lately in relation to the right side of his chest, his back, some down his arm and near his stomach when he eats certain things. He is doped up on pain meds and relaxers right now from a doc and two antibiotics for a bacteria in his stomach called H. Pylori. He is taking amoxicillian (antibiotic), clarithromycin (antibiotic), oxycontin (muscle relaxer), cyclobenzaprine (pain), and nexium(heartburn). His work wont let him go back to work unless he doesnt take the pain med which he cant cuz he gets pain so bad and almost keels over. He has been in and out of the hospital numerous times and they find nothing.

They have run tests on him for heart, gallbladder, lungs, liver, you name it. He did have a scope and they found a hiatal hernia but the doc doesnt beleive that is hurting him and that it can be treated with nexium. I believe he needs to be refered to a bigger and better place but he keeps fighting me on it. I think that it will only be a matter of time before he finally stops being an *** and listens. These medicines are making him an angry nasty person. The doc says that he may have to sit at home and treat the bacteria and that may make him feel better but of course my husband is anxious to get back to work and will do whatever it takes.

Well, I am perfectly capable of working. I finished school to be a teacher but there are no jobs right now but i can obviously sub but if we have his children like we do every other week i cant take his son to school, i can only take his daughter and our son together to day care before i get to school. We have to drive his son into town which is about a 15 min drive the same time i have to be at a school to sub.

I suggested we have his two kids on the weekends and he is throwing a fit and thinks i should sit at home cuz i wont make much anyway because i got to pay day care. we certainly dont have money to pay before and after school care for his son plus his daughter and our son together. Well, i wouldnt have to pay so much if he was capable of watching them but i dont think he is on all those medicines. I dont think he will be able to take his son to school either. His son cant ride the bus cuz we live in a different district than his mother and of course everything is conveinent for her but not for us….i think my husband is being unreasonable when I feel that we need to be able to pay our bills and put food on the table and he only is going to be getting checks for about half of what he normally makes. I got school loans to pay for too. I would like to try and sub as much as i possibly can.

Child support is not an issue since he has papers saying that custody is 50 50 with no support but it can still be 50 50 if we take them every weekend and all summer or a reasonable amount that the mother agrees to. Anyways, I am also pregnant with our second child together. I do not need this stress. We need to pay our bills. What do I do? Please help??!

A: if the pain pills aren’t taking away the pain, he needs to see a doctor at a bigger hospital. it does sound like a gall bladder problem. and if a dr thinks a heria isn’t bad then find another dr that knows what he’s doing.

Q: Hubby may be out of work but expects me to stay home and do all for his children..is this fair? Help!?
My husband has been having all kinds of pain lately in relation to the right side of his chest, his back, some down his arm and near his stomach when he eats certain things. He is doped up on pain meds and relaxers right now from a doc and two antibiotics for a bacteria in his stomach called H. Pylori. He is taking amoxicillian (antibiotic), clarithromycin (antibiotic), oxycontin (muscle relaxer), cyclobenzaprine (pain), and nexium(heartburn). His work wont let him go back to work unless he doesnt take the pain med which he cant cuz he gets pain so bad and almost keels over. He has been in and out of the hospital numerous times and they find nothing.

They have run tests on him for heart, gallbladder, lungs, liver, you name it. He did have a scope and they found a hiatal hernia but the doc doesnt beleive that is hurting him and that it can be treated with nexium. I believe he needs to be refered to a bigger and better place but he keeps fighting me on it. I think that it will only be a matter of time before he finally stops being an *** and listens. These medicines are making him an angry nasty person. The doc says that he may have to sit at home and treat the bacteria and that may make him feel better but of course my husband is anxious to get back to work and will do whatever it takes.

Well, I am perfectly capable of working. I finished school to be a teacher but there are no jobs right now but i can obviously sub but if we have his children like we do every other week i cant take his son to school, i can only take his daughter and our son together to day care before i get to school. We have to drive his son into town which is about a 15 min drive the same time i have to be at a school to sub.

I suggested we have his two kids on the weekends and he is throwing a fit and thinks i should sit at home cuz i wont make much anyway because i got to pay day care. we certainly dont have money to pay before and after school care for his son plus his daughter and our son together. Well, i wouldnt have to pay so much if he was capable of watching them but i dont think he is on all those medicines. I dont think he will be able to take his son to school either. His son cant ride the bus cuz we live in a different district than his mother and of course everything is conveinent for her but not for us….i think my husband is being unreasonable when I feel that we need to be able to pay our bills and put food on the table and he only is going to be getting checks for about half of what he normally makes. I got school loans to pay for too. I would like to try and sub as much as i possibly can.

Child support is not an issue since he has papers saying that custody is 50 50 with no support but it can still be 50 50 if we take them every weekend and all summer or a reasonable amount that the mother agrees to. Anyways, I am also pregnant with our second child together. I do not need this stress. We need to pay our bills. What do I do? Please help??!

A: Hi,
Your suggestion to go to work is a sensible one, that said, many men have a huge problem with ‘role reversal’.

Many men see themselves as the breadwinner and it hurts when they find through no fault of theirs that they are unable to fulfill that role.

If you tell him that it will only be for the duration of his illness, do you think that might help?

Going to work doesn’t mean that you will love him any the less – tell him.

I hope he will see that you are only trying to be helpful and agrees to your seeking paid work.

Q: My husband may be out of work, but still expects I stay home and do all for his children..is this fair? Help!!?
My husband has been having all kinds of pain lately in relation to the right side of his chest, his back, some down his arm and near his stomach when he eats certain things. He is doped up on pain meds and relaxers right now from a doc and two antibiotics for a bacteria in his stomach called H. Pylori. He is taking amoxicillian (antibiotic), clarithromycin (antibiotic), oxycontin (muscle relaxer), cyclobenzaprine (pain), and nexium(heartburn). His work wont let him go back to work unless he doesnt take the pain med which he cant cuz he gets pain so bad and almost keels over. He has been in and out of the hospital numerous times and they find nothing.

They have run tests on him for heart, gallbladder, lungs, liver, you name it. He did have a scope and they found a hiatal hernia but the doc doesnt beleive that is hurting him and that it can be treated with nexium. I believe he needs to be refered to a bigger and better place but he keeps fighting me on it. I think that it will only be a matter of time before he finally stops being an ass and listens. These medicines are making him an angry nasty person. The doc says that he may have to sit at home and treat the bacteria and that may make him feel better but of course my husband is anxious to get back to work and will do whatever it takes.

Well, I am perfectly capable of working. I finished school to be a teacher but there are no jobs right now but i can obviously sub but if we have his children like we do every other week i cant take his son to school, i can only take his daughter and our son together to day care before i get to school. We have to drive his son into town which is about a 15 min drive the same time i have to be at a school to sub.

I suggested we have his two kids on the weekends and he is throwing a fit and thinks i should sit at home cuz i wont make much anyway because i got to pay day care. we certainly dont have money to pay before and after school care for his son plus his daughter and our son together. Well, i wouldnt have to pay so much if he was capable of watching them but i dont think he is on all those medicines. I dont think he will be able to take his son to school either. His son cant ride the bus cuz we live in a different district than his mother and of course everything is conveinent for her but not for us….i think my husband is being unreasonable when I feel that we need to be able to pay our bills and put food on the table and he only is going to be getting checks for about half of what he normally makes. I got school loans to pay for too. I would like to try and sub as much as i possibly can.

Child support is not an issue since he has papers saying that custody is 50 50 with no support but it can still be 50 50 if we take them every weekend and all summer or a reasonable amount that the mother agrees to. Anyways, I am also pregnant with our second child together. I do not need this stress. We need to pay our bills. What do I do? Please help??!
he is getting come money from work because he works in a union…but its not enough to pay our bills and we have no relatives or friends that stay at home (all of our friends work). anyways even if we did have relatives to watch the children, they wouldnt be willing to drive a kid all over kingdom come to school and back. its not that i dont want his children, but yes i can sub every day and i need to be able to be available. I live in a big school district area where there are lots of schools around. and even if i dont get called a lot i am perfectly willing to get another job. i want to work and i feel it is my duty. his children are welcome on the weekends and i dont think thats to much to ask for. he would still see them a significant amount of time and not have to care for them
if the ex girl friend (NOT WIFE) would let us have the kid go to school in our district it wouldnt be so bad cuz he could ride the bus and problem solved but for her week that would be an inconvience cuz she’d have to drive him in and back. UP a **** CRICK EH:?

A: I have kinda the same situation. The best advice is to do u!!! Life is too short to try to my him comply with simple demands. Since he is incapable of running the household because of his situation, then I would absolutley take the steering wheel and roll on. Don’t let his medication determine what happens with your financial security or your mental well being. Medicine does not make u completely unable to participate in daily life. I know its hard because you are pregnant and it can be rough, I have 4 kids with my husband and he has 2 other children, but I let him take care of their situation. U know. He needs to be the one to say what needs to happen to the child from the previous relationship. And if the mother can’t or won’t comply, then don’t make it ur problem. She needs to be sensitive to what’s going on also. Team work makes the dream work!! You have a household to maintain and she is not paying your bills, so make him step up and say what needs to happen.

Q: Hubby may be out of work but expects me to sit at home and do all for his children is this fair? help!?
My husband has been having all kinds of pain lately in relation to the right side of his chest, his back, some down his arm and near his stomach when he eats certain things. He is doped up on pain meds and relaxers right now from a doc and two antibiotics for a bacteria in his stomach called H. Pylori. He is taking amoxicillian (antibiotic), clarithromycin (antibiotic), oxycontin (muscle relaxer), cyclobenzaprine (pain), and nexium(heartburn). His work wont let him go back to work unless he doesnt take the pain med which he cant cuz he gets pain so bad and almost keels over. He has been in and out of the hospital numerous times and they find nothing.

They have run tests on him for heart, gallbladder, lungs, liver, you name it. He did have a scope and they found a hiatal hernia but the doc doesnt beleive that is hurting him and that it can be treated with nexium. I believe he needs to be refered to a bigger and better place but he keeps fighting me on it. I think that it will only be a matter of time before he finally stops being an *** and listens. These medicines are making him an angry nasty person. The doc says that he may have to sit at home and treat the bacteria and that may make him feel better but of course my husband is anxious to get back to work and will do whatever it takes.

Well, I am perfectly capable of working. I finished school to be a teacher but there are no jobs right now but i can obviously sub but if we have his children like we do every other week i cant take his son to school, i can only take his daughter and our son together to day care before i get to school. We have to drive his son into town which is about a 15 min drive the same time i have to be at a school to sub.

I suggested we have his two kids on the weekends and he is throwing a fit and thinks i should sit at home cuz i wont make much anyway because i got to pay day care. we certainly dont have money to pay before and after school care for his son plus his daughter and our son together. Well, i wouldnt have to pay so much if he was capable of watching them but i dont think he is on all those medicines. I dont think he will be able to take his son to school either. His son cant ride the bus cuz we live in a different district than his mother and of course everything is conveinent for her but not for us….i think my husband is being unreasonable when I feel that we need to be able to pay our bills and put food on the table and he only is going to be getting checks for about half of what he normally makes. I got school loans to pay for too. I would like to try and sub as much as i possibly can.

Child support is not an issue since he has papers saying that custody is 50 50 with no support but it can still be 50 50 if we take them every weekend and all summer or a reasonable amount that the mother agrees to. Anyways, I am also pregnant with our second child together. I do not need this stress. We need to pay our bills. What do I do? Please help??!

A: Your husband is being an ass and is feeling sorry for himself. He is so used to being the main provider so is angry that he cannot get back to work. What you need to do is to sit down and talk to him about all of this and tell him that you need his support and a compromise. Make him listen, tell him you cannot do all of this on your own and need his help.

Q: Hubby may be out of work, but expects me to stay home and do all for his children, is this fair? Please help!?
My husband has been having all kinds of pain lately in relation to the right side of his chest, his back, some down his arm and near his stomach when he eats certain things. He is doped up on pain meds and relaxers right now from a doc and two antibiotics for a bacteria in his stomach called H. Pylori. He is taking amoxicillian (antibiotic), clarithromycin (antibiotic), oxycontin (muscle relaxer), cyclobenzaprine (pain), and nexium(heartburn). His work wont let him go back to work unless he doesnt take the pain med which he cant cuz he gets pain so bad and almost keels over. He has been in and out of the hospital numerous times and they find nothing.

They have run tests on him for heart, gallbladder, lungs, liver, you name it. He did have a scope and they found a hiatal hernia but the doc doesnt beleive that is hurting him and that it can be treated with nexium. I believe he needs to be refered to a bigger and better place but he keeps fighting me on it. I think that it will only be a matter of time before he finally stops being an *** and listens. These medicines are making him an angry nasty person. The doc says that he may have to sit at home and treat the bacteria and that may make him feel better but of course my husband is anxious to get back to work and will do whatever it takes.

Well, I am perfectly capable of working. I finished school to be a teacher but there are no jobs right now but i can obviously sub but if we have his children like we do every other week i cant take his son to school, i can only take his daughter and our son together to day care before i get to school. We have to drive his son into town which is about a 15 min drive the same time i have to be at a school to sub.

I suggested we have his two kids on the weekends and he is throwing a fit and thinks i should sit at home cuz i wont make much anyway because i got to pay day care. we certainly dont have money to pay before and after school care for his son plus his daughter and our son together. Well, i wouldnt have to pay so much if he was capable of watching them but i dont think he is on all those medicines. I dont think he will be able to take his son to school either. His son cant ride the bus cuz we live in a different district than his mother and of course everything is conveinent for her but not for us….i think my husband is being unreasonable when I feel that we need to be able to pay our bills and put food on the table and he only is going to be getting checks for about half of what he normally makes. I got school loans to pay for too. I would like to try and sub as much as i possibly can.

Child support is not an issue since he has papers saying that custody is 50 50 with no support but it can still be 50 50 if we take them every weekend and all summer or a reasonable amount that the mother agrees to. Anyways, I am also pregnant with our second child together. I do not need this stress. We need to pay our bills. What do I do? Please help??!
we have no relatives or friends that stay at home (all of our friends work). anyways even if we did have relatives to watch the children, they wouldnt be willing to drive a kid all over kingdom come to school and back. its not that i dont want his children, but yes i can sub every day and i need to be able to be available. I live in a big school district area where there are lots of schools around. and even if i dont get called a lot i am perfectly willing to get another job. i want to work and i feel it is my duty. his children are welcome on the weekends and i dont think thats to much to ask for. he would still see them a significant amount of time and not have to care for them

A: Quit asking his opinion and do what you have to do to survive.

Q: Hubby may be out of work but expects me to sit at home and do all for his children..is this fair? help!?
My husband has been having all kinds of pain lately in relation to the right side of his chest, his back, some down his arm and near his stomach when he eats certain things. He is doped up on pain meds and relaxers right now from a doc and two antibiotics for a bacteria in his stomach called H. Pylori. He is taking amoxicillian (antibiotic), clarithromycin (antibiotic), oxycontin (muscle relaxer), cyclobenzaprine (pain), and nexium(heartburn). His work wont let him go back to work unless he doesnt take the pain med which he cant cuz he gets pain so bad and almost keels over. He has been in and out of the hospital numerous times and they find nothing.

They have run tests on him for heart, gallbladder, lungs, liver, you name it. He did have a scope and they found a hiatal hernia but the doc doesnt beleive that is hurting him and that it can be treated with nexium. I believe he needs to be refered to a bigger and better place but he keeps fighting me on it. I think that it will only be a matter of time before he finally stops being an *** and listens. These medicines are making him an angry nasty person. The doc says that he may have to sit at home and treat the bacteria and that may make him feel better but of course my husband is anxious to get back to work and will do whatever it takes.

Well, I am perfectly capable of working. I finished school to be a teacher but there are no jobs right now but i can obviously sub but if we have his children like we do every other week i cant take his son to school, i can only take his daughter and our son together to day care before i get to school. We have to drive his son into town which is about a 15 min drive the same time i have to be at a school to sub.

I suggested we have his two kids on the weekends and he is throwing a fit and thinks i should sit at home cuz i wont make much anyway because i got to pay day care. we certainly dont have money to pay before and after school care for his son plus his daughter and our son together. Well, i wouldnt have to pay so much if he was capable of watching them but i dont think he is on all those medicines. I dont think he will be able to take his son to school either. His son cant ride the bus cuz we live in a different district than his mother and of course everything is conveinent for her but not for us….i think my husband is being unreasonable when I feel that we need to be able to pay our bills and put food on the table and he only is going to be getting checks for about half of what he normally makes. I got school loans to pay for too. I would like to try and sub as much as i possibly can.

Child support is not an issue since he has papers saying that custody is 50 50 with no support but it can still be 50 50 if we take them every weekend and all summer or a reasonable amount that the mother agrees to. Anyways, I am also pregnant with our second child together. I do not need this stress. We need to pay our bills. What do I do? Please help??!
when i mean his two children i mean the 2 he had before he met me with another woman…duh…
yea i realize i messed up the oxy contin part…it is the pain med and the other med is the relaxer…my bad….and i understand he wants his kids as apart of his life but that does not mean he has to jeopardize our family’s income and my health and stress levels…i love his kids and am willing to have them on the weekends i dont think thats unreasonalbe its not like he will be paying attention to them anyway they spend most of their time with me more than either of their parents ….so its not like it will be any different if he sees them every single weekend…dont give me that crap…people dont understand unless they are a step parent and understand the frustration. i cant do this all alone and i dont get help from him even when he isnt lying on a couch. if the kids could go to school in our district that would be great but the mother isnt gonna do that cuz she will have to drive on her week then and would be an inconvience to her. im sure she would let us have them weeknds
but my husband will throw a fit and say i dont want his kids around…even though he never pays attention to them ANYWAY! whether or not he is on meds

A: Let’s see, sounds like he’s ill, and wants to make sure that he’s still apart of his two kids from a prior marriage.

All I hear from you is a bunch of whining. Why don’t you just leave him if you can’t handle it? It sounds like he would be better off.

Q: Hubby may be out of work but he expects me to sit at home and do all for his children, is this fair? help!?
My husband has been having all kinds of pain lately in relation to the right side of his chest, his back, some down his arm and near his stomach when he eats certain things. He is doped up on pain meds and relaxers right now from a doc and two antibiotics for a bacteria in his stomach called H. Pylori. He is taking amoxicillian (antibiotic), clarithromycin (antibiotic), oxycontin (muscle relaxer), cyclobenzaprine (pain), and nexium(heartburn). His work wont let him go back to work unless he doesnt take the pain med which he cant cuz he gets pain so bad and almost keels over. He has been in and out of the hospital numerous times and they find nothing.

They have run tests on him for heart, gallbladder, lungs, liver, you name it. He did have a scope and they found a hiatal hernia but the doc doesnt beleive that is hurting him and that it can be treated with nexium. I believe he needs to be refered to a bigger and better place but he keeps fighting me on it. I think that it will only be a matter of time before he finally stops being an *** and listens. These medicines are making him an angry nasty person. The doc says that he may have to sit at home and treat the bacteria and that may make him feel better but of course my husband is anxious to get back to work and will do whatever it takes.

Well, I am perfectly capable of working. I finished school to be a teacher but there are no jobs right now but i can obviously sub but if we have his children like we do every other week i cant take his son to school, i can only take his daughter and our son together to day care before i get to school. We have to drive his son into town which is about a 15 min drive the same time i have to be at a school to sub.

I suggested we have his two kids on the weekends and he is throwing a fit and thinks i should sit at home cuz i wont make much anyway because i got to pay day care. we certainly dont have money to pay before and after school care for his son plus his daughter and our son together. Well, i wouldnt have to pay so much if he was capable of watching them but i dont think he is on all those medicines. I dont think he will be able to take his son to school either. His son cant ride the bus cuz we live in a different district than his mother and of course everything is conveinent for her but not for us….i think my husband is being unreasonable when I feel that we need to be able to pay our bills and put food on the table and he only is going to be getting checks for about half of what he normally makes. I got school loans to pay for too. I would like to try and sub as much as i possibly can.

Child support is not an issue since he has papers saying that custody is 50 50 with no support but it can still be 50 50 if we take them every weekend and all summer or a reasonable amount that the mother agrees to. Anyways, I am also pregnant with our second child together. I do not need this stress. We need to pay our bills. What do I do? Please help??!
oh god people and their you marriend the children too! please…i didnt marry them i agreed to help out when i can but i am NOT THEIR MOTHER! it doesnt mean i dont love them but again i am only their step mother. dont give me that bull shit. anyways we have no relatives around here willing to do that or friends that stay at home (all of our friends work). anyways even if we did have relatives to watch the children, they wouldnt be willing to drive a kid all over kingdom come to school and back. its not that i dont want his children, but yes i can sub every day and i need to be able to be available. I live in a big school district area where there are lots of schools around. and even if i dont get called a lot i am perfectly willing to get another job. i want to work and i feel it is my duty. his children are welcome on the weekends and i dont think thats to much to ask for. he would still see them a significant amount of time and not have to care for them
if the ex girl friend (NOT WIFE) would let us have the kid go to school in our district it wouldnt be so bad cuz he could ride the bus and problem solved but for her week that would be an inconvience cuz she’d have to drive him in and back. UP a SHIT CRICK EH:?

A: Well, you are in a pickle.

I have acid reflux – which is what your husband has – it’s brutal. I know what you mean about all the testing – I’ve been hospitalized twice because I thought I was having a heart attack.

I feel like we need a flow chart here: Is your husband doing what he can to control the acid reflux? There are specific foods that aggravate it. Overeating and fatty foods, spicy foods, sour foods. He’s on the antibiotics for the H. Pylori. He should be on Nexium as a matter of course – daily – maybe forever. Oxycontin is not a muscle relaxer – it’s a highly addictive narcotic – pain killer. How long has he been on it? You need to get him OFF of that. There are other muscle relaxers that aren’t addictive. If your husband has this problem and just keeps eating the wrong things, then you have no way out of this. It will continue. Off and on. Forever. The H. Pylorii is not his fault. The antibiotics should kill it, though. You can have acid reflux without H. Pylorii, too. He just happened to get that bacteria this time.

Those kids aren’t just his kids anymore. They’re your kids, too. YOU MARRIED THEM. Yup. So, suck it up, buttercup. Imagine if you were his kids and you had to live with your Dad and someone who’s not your Mom and doesn’t really want you around? Their lives surely do suck.

I think you have your reasons for being unhappy. 4 kids – even if they were all mine – would drive me nuts. Who chooses that anyway?

Well, I don’t know what you should do, but if I were you I think I’d take my child and go live with a relative for awhile to give you time to think about your future. You have a degree and a career to support yourself. A lot of women aren’t so lucky. You would be a single Mom – but wouldn’t that be easier than taking care of hubby + 4 children? He’s no help to you anyway.

You’re young now. You have a chance to make a better life for yourself. If you can handle being a single Mom, devoting yourself to your family and your career, you might have a satisfying life.

Best wishes,
Jane

Q: Hubby may be out of work for awhile but expects me to stay home and do all for his children. is this fair?help?
My husband has been having all kinds of pain lately in relation to the right side of his chest, his back, some down his arm and near his stomach when he eats certain things. He is doped up on pain meds and relaxers right now from a doc and two antibiotics for a bacteria in his stomach called H. Pylori. He is taking amoxicillian (antibiotic), clarithromycin (antibiotic), oxycontin (muscle relaxer), cyclobenzaprine (pain), and nexium(heartburn). His work wont let him go back to work unless he doesnt take the pain med which he cant cuz he gets pain so bad and almost keels over. He has been in and out of the hospital numerous times and they find nothing.

They have run tests on him for heart, gallbladder, lungs, liver, you name it. He did have a scope and they found a hiatal hernia but the doc doesnt beleive that is hurting him and that it can be treated with nexium. I believe he needs to be refered to a bigger and better place but he keeps fighting me on it. I think that it will only be a matter of time before he finally stops being an *** and listens. These medicines are making him an angry nasty person. The doc says that he may have to sit at home and treat the bacteria and that may make him feel better but of course my husband is anxious to get back to work and will do whatever it takes.

Well, I am perfectly capable of working. I finished school to be a teacher but there are no jobs right now but i can obviously sub but if we have his children like we do every other week i cant take his son to school, i can only take his daughter and our son together to day care before i get to school. We have to drive his son into town which is about a 15 min drive the same time i have to be at a school to sub.

I suggested we have his two kids on the weekends and he is throwing a fit and thinks i should sit at home cuz i wont make much anyway because i got to pay day care. we certainly dont have money to pay before and after school care for his son plus his daughter and our son together. Well, i wouldnt have to pay so much if he was capable of watching them but i dont think he is on all those medicines. I dont think he will be able to take his son to school either. His son cant ride the bus cuz we live in a different district than his mother and of course everything is conveinent for her but not for us….i think my husband is being unreasonable when I feel that we need to be able to pay our bills and put food on the table and he only is going to be getting checks for about half of what he normally makes. I got school loans to pay for too. I would like to try and sub as much as i possibly can.

Child support is not an issue since he has papers saying that custody is 50 50 with no support but it can still be 50 50 if we take them every weekend and all summer or a reasonable amount that the mother agrees to. Anyways, I am also pregnant with our second child together. I do not need this stress. We need to pay our bills. What do I do? Please help??!
for real people do you not actually read and then just right some smart alec answer? i am not the worst speller but what the hell does that have to with the problem?
my duty is not housework! screw you sexist people and fyi my husband has a job but is not working because of this pain and or illness…but id guess you would know that if you were reading
i have to be at school anywhere between 7:30 am and 8 am and his son has to be at school at 8:15…there is no before school care at his school there is before and after school care at another school that buses them for a big price…see my point…they wont watch him at school before it starts
not to mention the cheapest day care is far from his sons school and any school i sub at most likely is not close to his sons school either unless i am subbing at his sons school which will not happen all the time obviously..i cant ask to do that they have to call me
i live around a big school district with lots of schools and can sub every day and i need to be available…i would at least make an extra 400 a month on the days that i only have my son…if i had to have the other girl it would only be 200 but thats at least some groceries and gas….hello?

A: Your husband’s children are your husband’s responsibility. Your children, home, bills, etc. are your responsibility. If you need to take a job to pay bills and put food on the table then that is what you should do! If because of his illness, he can only see his kids on the weekend then too frigging bad! Life isn’t fair is it? Unfortunately, the world doesn’t stop because of an illness. He needs to grow up.

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